People say that love never dies. And we all live hoping for endless love. Why then love goes away? What happens when love dies? Does a person fall out of love with me, or does a person just leave, with love not gone?
When having found ourselves in a hurting situation of lost love, we ask: "Where does love go?" Not WHY, but WHERE. We actually think that love can not die. Then what really happens to it?
Infatuation is a superficial feeling, which cannot stay for a long time, but love can be checked by years. It is considered that 10-15 year is the period during which we understand that person will not leave you, will not betray you and you can trust this person. There is a connection of two people on all levels – on physical, emotional and moral. 
Thus, having met a person you can feel sympathy or liking for him (her) but you can make very little of him (her), as you can see only a part of the personality, moreover you can see the part this person chooses to show you. And you imagination is envisioning the rest, the part you can’t see. It is clear that your vision may not agree with the real object...
If the dearest one leaves you, it doesn’t mean they stop loving. Here we have a change of heart, but not a change in the heart. It is quite possible that true love still exists there in the heart. And what is more, I’m absolutely sure it’s impossible to stop loving, a human heart isn’t able to stop it...
Hroblem of love is not the problem of choice of a spouse, but the very ability to love. Sure enough, if you want to have a good wife; you might be looking for one carefully and for a long time, but you might never find an ideal match. But if you want to become a good husband, you may become that one with any wife. So, whatever wife you have, be sure you are a good husband – that is it!
In one sense infatuation is ‘Koshchei disease’. Koshchei the Deathless is the character of Russian fairy tales, one who has life not inside himself, but at the other location. That is why his life is always under the threat. For the status of infatuation such condition is typical: the meaning of our life is with another person.
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